Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Mother’s Creed

I had a long chat with 12-year-old son today. About life. About his futures. About values and belief. I told him I want him to be a good human who works hard not just for himself but for others. I told him that I don’t want him to work just for money – for money will come when you work hard. I want him to find something that would make him happy. I want him to be independent, but my door and arms will always be open for him.

This creed I wrote is my belief. This is my expectation for myself – as a mother. I have seen too many parents who need a parenting order from the Court, or parents who spoilt and push their children to make money – but forgot to tell them to pursue happiness and the greater good.



Mother’s Creed

Mothers (and fathers) are the provider of love and education to prepare their children to face the world

A mum’s door and arms will always open for her children – no matter how old they are
A mum wants her children to be independent, to earn their own living once they’re 18
But wherever she lives, her house is always a home for her children

A mum will support her children to pursue their dreams
She will give them a little push and a hub when they are weary or down

Mother’s love is forever unconditional
Her arms are always open for her children no matter how old they are

Mum would tell off her children when they are naughty
She would say, “I hate your behaviour but I never stop loving you.”
Mum might punish her children – grounded them, washed their mouth with soap or bird eye chilli when they said bad words, took their toys away
But mum will always give reason behind punishment, lesson for the future
And mum will never forget to tell her children that she loves them no matter what – and she shows this in her actions

A good mum wants her children to be happy – whatever their choices are
She would never push her children to work just for money
She would support her children to find a job that will satisfy their hearts
An idealist mum wants her children to pursue something higher than themselves
She would ask her children to help others in whatever they do – whatever occupation they may have in live

A Mother is the House Manager
She keeps the house clean and tidy, able to make do and mend
She delegates the tasks when she is busy
She teaches her children (girl AND boy) to iron their clothes, to stitch buttons, to cook
She will make sure that her children will survive the daily tasks when she’s not around

For religious people, a mother is the projection of God’s unconditional Love
Her calling in life is to make sure that her next generation will do good in this messed up world